5 Year OLDD AUGHTER BI-RACIAL HAIR DISASTER

Hi there! I am African-American and there are a few good inexpensive products tailored just for kids. Its called just for me and I think its by soft sheen. You should only wash her hair once a week or every other week. When you do after you condition it Just for me has a detangling spray you apply to the damp hair. Then you are going to want to part the hair in 4-6 sections and then using a wide tooth comb gently comb from the root to the tip. Never brush her hair wet because it pulls the hair leading to breakage and pulling the hair out.

Get a detangler and let that sit in her hair for 5 min..then take a wide tooth comb , part the hair in 4 sections snd comb from the bottom (ends of the hair up) to minimize pulling and tugging.

Try Miss Jessie's or Kinky Curly products. They have good photo tutorials on .the miss jessies website and youtube. They are on the expensive side but are on ebay sometimes. You can also go to a natural hair salon to get some hands on advice and recomendations. We have lots of them here in Atlanta, but I don't know what's available in SC. A salon that specializes in natural hair will know how to detangle and moisturize much better than those that do relaxers or braids only. Moisture and a wide tooth comb are a god send!

I will be curious to see what other people say here. My daughter also has very curly hair. The only way we can comb through it with little tangles and pain is to put conditioner in it while it is wet and then work the tangles out. We have had our share of crying and screaming and I remember when I was a little girl, my mom had the same problems with my hair. I hated her doing my hair, more than anything I just wanted it all cut off. With my daughter last year that is exactly what I did, I cut it short and kept it that way for almost a year. We are just now growing it back out and getting back into the curly, ponytail routine.

Hello, I've always wondered how mom's that don't have the same hair types as their daughters do this. Mom's please please go to a professional and get advise from a salon. Yes all of the hair tips do work, but you probably need some extra advise as well. Bi-racial and black hair likes to be braided and needs moiture. Please don't put perms on it at this age. Your daughter is what we call 'tender headed' and all of the tension of brushing really hurts her. I hate to see the baby girls with crazy hair so let someone show you how to do it. Happy Hair!

my daughter also has that type of hair. i use pantene shampoo and conditioner. but when you apply the conditioner leave it on for 5-10 min with shower cap...then rinse. always start combing the hair from the ends to the root slowly. if you start at the root it will pull the hair causing it to hurt.hope this will help alittle. good lick. happy new year!

Hi K., My daughter is 4 1/2 and also Bi-racial. One of the things I do with her is not wash her hair too often. Maybe twice a week, and when I do, I don't use shampoo, only conditioner. Then after that is rinsed, I put in a leave in conditioner, and style. or put in one or two braids if she is going to sleep. I also suggest not using a brush, as they tend to break the hair. Instead use a wide tooth comb for detangling, and only a brush for styling. There are tons of products out there. I get most of my advice from www.Cafemom.com. They have several groups including a biracial haircare group, where you can ask questions to other moms. HTH ;)

K.,
As a parent of a child with similar hair qualities, (I've never referred to it as a problem :-) I had to try a few hair soothers to make the situation better when she was younger. Her hair was big fuzzy, blondish brown. My suggestions are these: 1) put something moisturizing on her locks, such as Motions Hair Lotion (available at your local grocer; cheaper at Wal-Mart); 2) always blow dry immediately after bedtime; 3) never allow her hair to be fully dried without the protection of a moisturizer; 4) never comb her hair out without a wide tooth comb; 5) Fantasia I.C. Hair Polisher, not the spritz, is great for bi-racial hair like our childrens'!; 6) don't perm her hair if at all possible - her follices are too young, the chemicals are too harsh and most of us do so due to peer pressure which is just wrong; 7) don't let her believe the hype about "her hair is so thick she needs a SUPER instead of a regular perm". There is NEVER a need for anything that strong on our childrens' hair; it's a myth; 8) If you so desire, hair salons will straighten her locks with the blow dryer and a flat iron for a reasonable fee; ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS remind the stylist that this is a child and as such the temperature of the dryer must be moderate - never hot; 9) after drying her beautiful tresses at home, it is imperative to oil her hair at the scalp - her hair and all ours will reward you with its luster when you keep it moisturized; 10) unless you guys have a wedding, special event or other family outing, letting our type of hair stay down all the time often invites tangles; therefore, two nice long braids are good.

Especially if you give her a small bang. Keeping her hydrated is also key. Water is necessary for cell growth and development and we consume lots of it through our home water filter on the faucet. To sum it up, Always remember to moisturize, use wide-tooth combs, no-air drying, no spriz and no hair spray which contain most alcohol and serve to dry out her hair, use the moisturizer at least 3 times a week from root to tip to keep them happy, consider flat ironing even if you lovingly do it (especially if you're opposed to straightening, which I'm not occasionally), and never be upset with her over it and or let people criticize her for it. That's what makes us all wonderful, we're all different but fantastic individuals. As one with Caucasian, Native American and African American grandparents, I take these little challenges as they come. My child is older now, so I love to share our triumphs with others. Contact me anytime!

I didn't read all of your results, but Carol's Daughter (.com) has wonderful products for ethnic hair. They are pricey, but it is because they are made with natural essential oils, etc and smell incredible.
The products are also available at Sephora. Our teen sitter is biracial and uses these products on her waist length tight curls.
Also, I noticed you used "brushing after bath time"- make sure you are using a wide tooth comb, hold the hair in a low pony tail with your hand and comb the pony tail first without pulling at the scalp. After that hair is smooth, you can move on the hair at the scalp.

Try the product mixed chicks. Go to the web site mixed chicks.net This product works well.

Looks like you have so great responses. You also might try the book Curly Girl. I'm my sure who wrote it but it's full of great methods for loving the curls. Good luck

Try L'oreal hair detangler. It's a lime green bottle. Usually runs under 3 dollars.When doing her hair try using pink lotion. It's a pink bottle and it's like lotion and it's greasy but it will keep the tangles away.

Good Luck.

Another great resource is biracialhair.org. This website is helpful for all types of curly hair but is very interesting because the website is run by a woman who is biracial who tells the history of her struggles with her hair. I follow her tips for my naturally curly caucasian hair and they help alot.

Hi K.,

I am bi-racial, and my mom had a hard time dealing with my soft curls as well! She finally came up with a method that definitely helped curb the screaming battles. She would simply add baby oil to my hot baths and I would soak my hair in it (kind of like a homeade hotoil treatment). Back then - not sure if they still make this - they had the Johnson & Joshnson's detangling spray. She always used a wide tooth comb and started from the bottom, working her way up. My hair was always in one or 2 braids, especially for bed. Remember, you don't need to wash her hair everyday. Later we kept my hair with long layers in it to try to lessen the thickness. That helped a lot! Now I just use Loreal Vive products for curly hair, a light pomade and Aussie Curl Control spritz. I usually keep it straight in the cooler months bcause it's so much easier to deal with! There are products like Carol's Daughter. I have not tried them, but I know people who use them for their kids. They are all natural and formulated by a women with VERY curly hair. Here's the link: http://www.carolsdaughter.com/category/kids.do

Pink hair moisturizer and Motions really weigh the hair down and give the "greasy look" so if you decide to go that route, just use a small amount.

Hope you find a system that works for BOTH of you!!
Happy Holidays & God Bless ;oD

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we have adopted an AA girl and have also adopted a multiracial child, and so have multitudes of hair types in teh house :) THAT was/is an learning curve!

this link above is a yahoo group ( i am NOT the owner, just a user) that deals with AA and Biracial hair for those of us that didn't grow up knowing how to deal with it LOL i've found to be extremely useful in learning about products, what works for some, what works for few, styles, etc. there is so much information out there - and the pictures in the files are certainly an inspiration.

it's a group that have either adopted domestically or internationally, children that are of AA nationality and the hair issues that we need to learn about :)

good luck! it's a blessing!

Look up Curltopia with Kristen James. She specializes in curly hair and natural hair. Most of their clients are biracial.

My 2 and 4 year old have similar problem. My eldest however, has a different texture than the youngest. The eldest (whose hair is a perfect combination of their father's smooth and curly hair with my thick and kinky hair) I use SoftSheen-Carson Optimum Oil herapy that has a 3 in 1 creame oil moisturizer it contains coconut, olive, avocado, and jojoba oils in it. You can use it on wet or dry hair in combination with a detangling comb - then use a fine tooth comb and hair brush afterwards.
For my 2 year old (who's hair is exactly like her fathers - smooth, silky, and curly) I use plain cold pressed virgin olive oil (she has ezcema so any thing else would cause her scalp to break out) and a detangling comb - followed by a fine tooth comb and a hair brush. I have to maintain it everyday so that it's easier to comb - causing less pain.

Buy a shampoo from the "ethnic" section of Sally's or some other store that carries this -- it's called Creme of Nature. Also, Pantene Pro-V conditioner put in and rinsed out. Then, a small amount put in and NOT rinsed out. Makes combing though it a lot easier. Only comb through her hair wet -- not dry. Put in a good gel like got2b glued by Schwarzkopf (and you don't have to use as much as you'd think)-- also, you only need to wash her hair like twice a week, probably.

I am not biracial but I do have the hair. When I lived in Va, where the white kids were the minority, the black girls at my school would tease me and say, "Girl! You gotta be black! Look at your hair!"

So, these tricks are what I've learned over the years having this nutso hair.