4Yr Old Wetting Pants During the Day

Two things to evaluate.

Pull ups are just too comfortable. Pullups delay potty training because they can't tell they are wet.

Sometimes this happens because of either food allergies, or vitamin deficiencies. ( ususally B vitamins) Any easy way to determine if food allergies are the culprit is to observe if there is a specific food they are craving.

My daughter, it was apples. Apple jack cereal, apple sauce, cut up apples, apple pie, etc etc. One of my friends, it was a sensitivity to food colors and additives. Hotdogs have the red, Kraft Mac & cheese has the yellow etc.

Was there someone new at school, maybe a new teacher or someone she is scared of?

My daughter did this for a little bit, but come to find out she was scared of one of her teachers because she used a loud voice when talking to the kids and she thought she was being yelled at. After speaking with them and her about the problem, and making her comfortable with telling anyone she needed to go, it took a couple of weeks of reassurance but she kicked the problem and is now back to going on the potty.

Have not had experience with this but maybe try whatever worked with your other child. Possibly try telling her it's not acceptable at her school. It may not be as most preschools want a child to be "potty trained". If they are willing to deal with it, it may still work to put some peer pressure, "See Suzy doesn't wet her pants". Definately ask your daughters' doctor to make sure there is no infection or medical reason affecting her. Or, it may be something emmotional is affecting her, nervous or doesn't like someone at school, etc. Hope you find something that works for you/your daughter.

Maybe an incentive plan for her. Is there anything that she really really wants from the store? Obviously within reason of course. Tell her she has to be accident free for a set period of time(you decide based on her history) and then you will get her the treat. Maybe let her choose what is for dinner one night to celebrate. Just a few ideas that worked with my boys.
Good Luck!!

When my 4 yr old daughter has accidents, it is usually because she is so engrossed in her activities. At preschool, it is very exciting to be playing with other children and different toys, and that can supercede the urgency to get to the toilet in time. Talk to your daughter about "listening to her body" and definately ditch the pull-ups. At this age, accidents happen here and there, but hopefully they'll come to be few and far between with a continuing conversation about listening to her body. Remind her that the children and activities will be there when she returns, so it is important ot go when her pee-pee starts tickling her to get out. Even at home, when we are playing or cooking, I see that little dance starting, and I have to demand that she goes. They are just so engaged in the world around them and need a little help tuning into the world within them. Good luck & be patient!

I had a problem with my 3.5 yo with not going poop on the potty. She started preschool recently and she did not care that she needed to be potty trained to go to preschool. So, after a few weeks going to preschool, I told her that if she continued to poop in her pants, that she could not go back to preschool. We waited to tell her about the requirement again, so she would understand what she would be missing as a result of her not cooperating. About a week later she had accidents for 3 days straight, I kept her home the next day from preschool and she has been 100% better about going on the potty. She has had a few accidents, but not even close to what was going on before.
She definately understood that I meant what I said. I also discussed this with the teacher and she was OK with the plan. I asked that if she had an accident at school to call me right away and I would take her home. That never happened, but she knew I would follow through with getting "kicked out" of preschool, so she really made a better effort.

HOpe this helps!
D.

Hi
First I subjects that you throw away the pull-up !! Your 4 year old understand more then you think. Now take her to the store and let her pick out her own underwear this will make her feel like a big girl if she has friends take them with her if she doesnt have friends that ok. After she gets the underpants she if she wet them. Let me know what happen. SMILE!!!!!

Hi L.,
I have a son who was the same way and we used cloth training pants that wouldn't leak through his cloths but he felt wet, unlike pull-up where they don't feel the wettness. It helped a lot during the day and was a lot cheaper than buying pull-ups all the time. He is 5 now and is much better during the day but is still wet at nights. So we still use the cloth trainers at night. Let me know if you want more info. about the cloth options.
R.

When I was a very young girl, I had the same problem. The issue was that I was bathing with harsh chemical soaps and bubble bath. All of these things can be very irritating and harmful for a young girls urinary tract and can cause bladder impotence. You can try fresh water only baths with all natural soaps and shampoos to see if it stops, check with her doctor as well.