4 1/2 y.o. Pees on brother...Should I Be Concerned About Behaviour??

I agree with Karee W but I'd like to point out one thing that nobody else has said. I just want to make clear w/o a doubt that this behavior is damaging to the younger child. The older child needs to learn (if he doesn't already understand) that doing such a thing is extremely disrespectful and degrading to the other person. This goes way beyond "boys will be boys". You sound like you might know that already but it's really important to stress this to the child. Good luck!

We have had the same thing happen!!! Our 5 year old peed on his brother. He laughs and thinks it's funny, he does it in the bathtub. I wonder if it's just a 'boy' thing. I did the whole that is so gross/unacceptable etc... It seemed like the more I went on about it, caused him to continue on, touching it etc... So now, I make him pee before he gets in the tub. I don't have a solution for you, just wanted to share my pee story for you! Best Wishes, hopefully it will be a behavior he gets rid of quickly!

Yes. If he still is continuing to do this despite your best efforts to redirect him and to explain why this can't go on (why it is wrong)-- you need to seek the assistance of your doctor and if he/she is not helpful, talk to a Children's counselor or therapist for intervention approaches. I don't think you need to be hyper-alarmed about this, but you need to take swift pointed action.

I would definitely be concerned. Wow. I grew up with 3 brothers, 2 older and never anything like this. Is there any chance you could have mom and me or dad and me days? Maybe he needs some attn just for him. Especially since you say the little bro gets caught in the middle. He is at teh age where is gets a little more independant so maybe you could make a point of him being the big brother and having special responsibilities. If nothing changes, you could talk to his doctor.

Wow. I thought I had it bad when my 3 year old peed on our dogs. Is there something besides candy/desserts that he loves that will be more of a punishment if you take it away? I would hope that it's a stage, but the fact that he doesn't think it's wrong would worry me also. Does he do this in the tub? If so, can you give them separate baths? I know that doesn't really cure the problem though. Maybe talk to your pediatrician to get some ideas. I'm sorry I'm not too much help. Good luck!
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