35 Weeks - Nervous, Scared, Anxious, Dont Know What to Do.

Go visit the hospital! I delivered at a completely different hospital with my fourth due to diabetes issues and had never visited the hospital but knew it was top notch. I had never previously met the doctor that ended up in the delivery room but it was still an incredible experience. You may be out of your comfort zone as far as familiarity but you will be so focused elsewhere that it really won't matter. Take a little drive today if you can and check it out. The most important thing is your precious little girl will be in very good hands! Best wishes!

Ok mama, first, don't stress. It all works out in the end. You know you're going to be at the best hospital as far as nicu right? If you haven't yet, take a tour of that hospital. It's very unlikely that your doctor will schedule before 38 weeks unless it's an emergency, he sounds like he's keeping your little girls interest at heart when he told you to wait until week 38 and see what happens. Mine never made it to 38 weeks either so I know how you feel on that end. Just keep in mind, even though your other three came early doesn't mean this one may not need a little more time, especially because of the lung issue. Don't stress out too much about who delivers, it would be nice if your doctor is available but not always possible. With all three of mine I had a different doc deliver. All you can do is hope for the best. Wishing you the best!

Hi E., you can certainly try to get him to do on the 5th, but he may not agree and you have to be prepared for that. I hope everything works out for the best! Blessings to you and your precious baby girl!

all three of my deliveries were at different hospitals. Great staffing for each, no issues with any of the hospitals. Oh, & all 3 deliveries were with different doctors....

1st was when we lived in St Louis. That ob/gyn moved to Texas.

Then we moved to a small town. 2nd delivery was at our local hospital. Last minute c-section, & our daughter was born w/ mulitple heart/lung defects. I had to stay in our local hospital, & our daughter was evaac'd to St Louis. It was almost a week before I could see her, because on my 1st day home...I tore muscles & was put on bedrest. (my DH stayed in St Louis with her.)

Moving on to my last delivery. My local ob/gyn moved overseas. I chose to go with a practice I was familiar with in St Louis. I knew the commute would be a pain, but I felt good about it. .....& then I became a high-risk pregnancy. I began seeing a perinatologist at the same hospital as my ob/gyn. Loved both doctors, high comfort zone with both offices. 1st time to deliver at this hospital. Our son was born without issue, & was the 1st out of 4 pregnancies to come home upon my release. :)

Sooo, based on my experiences, it's a.o.k. to deliver at different hospitals! Go & visit throughout the ward......& really familarize yourself with their processes. Create a comfort zone for yourself....& I think it will go well. Wishing you a speedy & safe delivery!

If the hospital is best prepared to care for your baby then I would try to stop stressing over it. It's not good for you or the baby to worry and the longer the lungs develop the better for her. It will work out and we can't always plan each detail of a delivery. Just relax and wait for your baby girl and let the plan fall into place.

Your body is already telling you where it's at. That is so reassuring. This is a natural process and it seems to be going as it should. Stop trying to schedule every second of your delivery. You have excellent people taking care of you and your baby, everyone who will be at the hospital is a professional. You will be all right.

The unknown is always scarry. Keep in mind that when you were pregnant with your first you had never had a baby before in any hospital. You didn't know what it was going to be like or how you would feel or what the experience would be at all. Going to that hospital now is a little like visiting an old friend. You've delivered 3 times there, so it feels very safe.

The whole situation is incredibly frightening. How could it not be? You might be focused on the actual hospital and the room situation and doctor situation because those are actual things you have control over and the alternative might seem a little scary at the moment but it's nothing compared to your fears about how your daughter is doing and how she will be doing when she is born. It's just so much easier for you to focus on these particular aspects.

Having never been in your situation I can't even begin to know how frightened you are. I think you need to take a deep breath, go for a walk and try to think about something else until your appointment.

When you go to your appointment, let your doctor know what your concerns are and what would be your ideal scenario. Your doctor will help you figure out a plan that will be best for you and your daughter.

Wishing you and your daughter all the best!

E. - just go to the hospital, and go to Maternity and ask to see it. That will give you some peace of mind. The reason your doctor won't schedule early is because the ACOG has changed the guidelines on planned c-sections - you can NOT have a planned c-section earlier than 39 weeks unless either you or the baby are in distress. This happened last year and is meant to help prevent as many premature babies as had been happening due to bad dating. As you know, premies can have underdeveloped lungs and lots of complications.

Hang in there- and see what happens at the next visit. In the meantime, drive to Holtz and visit so that you are more comfortable. C.

There is, and it will be revealed soon enough! All the best!