30 Year Old Trying to Concieve First Child

I had my first at age 38, after 1 miscarriage and then 3 more months of trying. Now we're trying for number 2, and can't wait! It's different for everyone, but hon, you're young.

I had my first child at 38 and she is a wonderful, beautiful, smart and healthy child. Don't give up! It might take you a while. Just be patient and try not to stress out over it.

I had my first baby at 31 and now am pregnant with my second at age 34. It took a few cycles, but the biggest key was really tracking things for me--I used a tracking log from my doctor, and babycenter.com has an ovulation predictor as well. BTW--I also have had 2 friends who didn't have their first babies until they were 40.

Hello,

I am thirty, and my doctor told me that at that age it takes about a year to a year and a half to concieve, and that that is normal. Which is what I knew already. It took me a year and two months to concieve at 30, and I am currently pregnant. This is my second child. It took me two months to concieve my first child at 25.

I think you should be very patient, but in no case disappointed.

Hi
I had my first at age 33. It took me 6 months after I was off my b/c. Don't stress yourself over it you have to relax. I know it is hard, I joined fertility friend which helped me, talking to others going through the same thing. You can also chart everything on there. There are several other websites that will be helpful if you want them.
Good luck,
mylisa

My first advice, which I know is easier said than done, is to try to distract yourself and not think about it so much. I started at 31 and got pregnant 3 months after going off the pill. I had a miscarriage, got pregnant 3 months later again, had another miscarriage, then it took about 6 or 8 months before I got pregnant and finally carried full term. I was getting discouraged and started re-focusing on getting myself healthy and back into good shape and that's when it happened. Everyone is different but you'll drive yourself crazy if you stress over it.

Hey K. ... my daughter is an OB-GYN and had her first at age 33 and now is expecting her second at age 37 ... I'm thinking 'no worry'. God's speed and blessings to you ... and enjoy the 'journey' ... ha

Invest in a copy of the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. It is available in most book stores in the family planning section. It is a "thick" book, but very straight forward and takes the guessing game out! Good Luck! I was 30 when my first was born, 34 for the 2nd. I am very irregular and would have never conceived without the knowledge from this book!

I would give it at least 6 months of trying before getting too worried. If you are concerned, though, see if you can have an ultrasound taken to rule out ovarian cysts. A laparoscopy can be an even more in depth look, but is a surgery, and I'm not sure you want to pursue that option just yet. For now, give it some time and try to stay positive...

Hi K. D,
When you wait a while to decide to conceive anytime seems a long time. We started trying at age 35 and I was worried, it took us 6 months, this was normal I found out. I've heard somewhere that if it takes longer than a year it's a problem. Talk to your doctor if you are worried. There are ovulation predictor kits now. If you have a regular cycle you can kind of figure it out for yourself, there is not a large window of fertile days.
good luck,
S.
homeschool mom who sets up Melaleuca accounts.

Hi K.,
Don't get discouraged!! 30 is actually considered to be quite young to conceive without any problems. I believe the general rule is if you are under 35, try for a year before you pursue any fertility assistance.You might ask your doctor if you or your husband can be tested, although since you have only been trying for a couple of months, my guess is he/she will tell you to keep trying for several more months first.
My husband and I got married when I was 35 and he was 39. We tried for a few months without success, so because of our age we did do some testing. His test came back with low motility. (swimmers were slow, but otherwise healthy). We did a couple of IUI's (intrauterine insemination) which I wouldn't recommend because I know nobody that was successful with that method and it can be costly-about $500 each time. I did have the dye test/hcg test done where they shoot dye through your fallopian tubes to see if there are any blockages. It has been said that this can really help conception because it kind of cleans out the tubes and we did get pregnant on our own within a couple of months after that procedure. It took us 9 months to get pregnant in all. So despite our ages we really did not have a fertility issue. It just took some time and we finally got to the point where we relaxed and focused our attention on other things. I had my first child at 36 (almost 37) and conceived again when my son was only 8 months old.
I highly suggest getting a fertility monitor. It really helps pinpoint the best days of the month to conceive. We used a monitor for our second child and it only took 3 cycles to concieve that time.

Good luck to you! I know it is hard to not obsess over something like this, but I truly believe that stress plays a big role in fertility. Once we got to the mindset that it will happen when it happens-that is when it happened!! LOL

A.

I didn't have any trouble getting pregnant, so, I don't know what it is like to maybe have that "worry".
But, I think the more you think about it and stress about it...it may seem to take longer, or give you the feeling that it isn't "working".
If it gets to be a year or so, and still no baby, then maybe get checked out. 30 is not an age to worry about either. I really think some people are having kids too young. It is difficult. You are more than likely established, you probably have a great job, great husband you know you are ready to have a baby with. you're not jumping into something you can't handle.
If it gets to be a lengthy time, then think about seeing a fertility specialist.
Otherwise....just enjoy trying!!

Don't worry! I was 30 when my first child was conceived (2 cycles) and my second child was conceived within one cycle when I was 33.

I had my first at 36 and my second at 39. Both were conceived quickly and easily. You'll be fine. It may take a while, but I don't think your age at this point has much to do with it. Also, I only have one ovary due to a cyst I had removed in my 20s.

Hello K. D

I had baby #1 at age 31. I had baby #2 at age 34.

My best friend who is 36 just had Baby #1.

I used the below website for conceiving baby #2 and also gave it to my best friend who has been trying for several months.

Googled "Ovualation Calculator" which would calculate your most fertile days based on your last period.

http://www.babycenter.com/ovulation-calculator

This website automatically pops up a calculator.

Good luck!

I was 31 when I conceived my first child. I went off the pill for 2 months and got pregnant the month after that. I did the same for my second child who was born almost 2 years later when I was 33. I would relax and not think about it and hopefully it will just happen. Good luck!

My story is almost identical to Angie's, except we did not do the insemination procedure. We had been married for eleven years, the last ten without birth control, and decided if we wanted children...that we should start paying attention to what we were doing...the timing and all that.

My doctor flushed the dye through my tubes and I was pregnant eight days later. I had that first child at age 34...and was (unexpectedly) pregnant again six months later. I had my third child at 42.

I would say it's way too early for you to stress out over a baby. Focus on enjoying the day that has been given to you and just wait to be surprised down the road.

I conceived my first child at age 37 (accidentally), and my second at 40- in one cycle.
There is a book called "Your Fertility Signals" which I used for years to NOT get pregnant. It makes a lot of sense, taught me about my body's rhythm, and then helped me to become pregnant.

If you are really worried, maybe you should ask your doctor.
GOOD LUCK!

Just relax do not put so much pressure on yourself. I had all three of my children after 30. If you are concerned speak to your doctor he/she can check for any issues that may make it harder.

Do get the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". I found it really helpful when trying to conceive. (Sometimes it's not as easy as you would think.) I had been trying for a few months when my friend suggested reading this book. I became pregnant shortly after starting to follow the books charting method. I was 32 when I had my first child and 34 with my second. So you are certainly not old. Good luck!

K.,
I was 31 when I got pregnant the first time and had just been diagnosed with PCOS. I hadn't had a period in 6 mo. and then got pregnant after 3 months of "trying" figuring it couldn't happen. This time I did fertility charting with a more regular cycle and it only took 3 mo. ...and I'm not 31 anymore....=) I really enjoyed charting. My cycles have always been long, so it was great confirmation for me when and that I was ovulating. Good luck.
S.

Don't worry so much about your age. I was 36 when we conceived our first child. We had been trying for 13 years to have a child and it took us living in a different state and realizing that we may never have children when I got pregnant. So just relax and enjoy your time together because before you know it, you'll be there.

I had my first child when I was 35 and my second at 37. Just relax and try not to think so much about it and you may be pleasantly surprised as I was.

I was 29 and it took 4 months my sister was 30 and had no problems. I had my 2nd at 32 and took 4 months also. I personally know women who have had their last child in their 40's with no problems.

Hi! I started trying for my first at around 31 I think. Prior to that, I had been on some form of birth control since I was 20. It took us 8 months to concieve our first. I took my temperature and new when I ovulated every month and timed the sex accordingly (that took the fun out of it pretty darn quick!) It was very frustrating and even more frustrating when the MD said that it typically can take a year and they wouldn't do anything more progressive to help us until that time. Since I worked in the health system and know about fertility issues to a certain degree I was proactive and had an appointment with the fertility doctor scheduled for exactly one year from when started trying. Thankfully, I never needed the appointment and neither will you. Patience was the key! I just told you the above story so that if you started feeling anxious you will know that you were not the only one who was getting frustrated with the whole conception thing. It was so unhelpful to me when friends would say, "Wow - it only took me one month!" After about four months of not concieving I would start to feel really sad or even cry when I had my period. Again, only telling you this so you feel a bit more normal. Good luck! It will happen!!!

We started trying for our first when I was 30. It took 6 months to conceive and I miscarried before 12 weeks. We decided to wait about 9 months before trying again. I got pregnant that time at age 31 after 2 months. I had my daughter at 32 and she's a healthy almost 3 year old. With #2, we started trying at age 33 and got pregnant the first time and miscarried at 5 weeks. We got pregnant right after the miscarriage with no cycle in between and my son was born when I was 34 and he is now 10 months old. I'm 35 and I think I want to try for one more!

You have plenty of time. Relax and have fun!

No worries! Our first child was conceived at 32; second at 36 and third at 37! Whew. And, I have terrible thyroid disease to boot. After babe number one, the specialists all noted that we'd not have any luck with more children. Ummm?

We were pregnant within ONE cycle with EACH child.

Good luck and God bless...

Get your hands on the book "taking charge of your fertility"! It is a wonderful book. Our first was conceived after I turned 30 and our son when I was almost 37. We had a bout of secondary infertility and our specialist explained that even though your chances begin to go down, it's not like cliff jumping after you turn 30/35- they begin to slightly go down. Good luck!

K.,

30 is young :) I had my first at 32, second at 34 and third at 36. It took us about 4 months the first time, 2 months the second, and 1 month the third. It is totally normal for it to take a couple of months. I ended up using a "pee on the stick" type ovulation predictor which helped my pinpoint when I was ovulating the first time. That worked like a charm.

Good luck to you, and know that what you are experiencing is very very normal!

Jessica

I think that the important thing to remember is that everyone is different. At 30 you have nothing to worry about age wise, and you should probably see your OB if you haven't already and verify that you are physically ready and healthy enough to have a baby. Make sure you are taking your prenatal vitamins and an omega 3 supplement already before you conceive.

I tried for ten years to get pregnant between my first and second son, and then spent the next three years pregnant and have three under 3 now, and am 34 myself. I remember how the worrying every month and disappointment felt, and from everything I read, the healthier you are and the less stressed you are, the better it is for your body to conceive. Now I get worried if my husband looks at me :)

Best of luck to you, and hopefully it won't take too many more months. And then you will find out just how long the first pregnancy takes :)

I recommend learning how to chart your cycles so you can figure out exactly which day you are ovulating. I love the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Welscher. It will teach you everything you need to know and is an easy read. If it has only been a couple of months I would not worry too much, it could be a timing thing and charting may fix that. I also think trying the ovulation predictor tests are a good idea too. But I definitely don't think you are too old at 30!

Hello! I had my first child at 23 and then we did not have our second until I was 30. My third child was born when I was 34. Just relax and a little and a miracle will come your way. Not sure how many cycles it takes, just need to hit it at the right time when you are ovulating. Take care and good luck!