My daughter is almost 3. She has been potty-trained for over half a year! She does not have accidents, even at night.
The last 3 days she has taken her pants down and peed on the basement stairs.
Yuck! How do we get her to stop? Why did she do this?
UPDATE: Her 4-year-old brother might have encouraged her to do this. That seems to be the information I'm getting from them. So we have to stop both of them from this conspiracy!
Is she alone when she does this? I am wondering if she finds the stairs private? When I was little I didn't even want anyone to know I was going to the bathroom. Shy beyond belief. Make the potty as private as possible.
Just a thought.
I had this issue with one of my twin boys. I used the Love & Logic approach...which worked (after 2 tries). I said "Ohhhh..." (in a sad voice). "We'll have to call the special carpet cleaning man to come clean your carpet. Pee-pee is supposed to go in toilets, and when it gets on carpet, it's very dirty. Mommy can't clean it herself. How are you going to pay for that?" We 'agreed' on one of his favorite toys, which was taken away and never given back. I cleaned the carpet myself when he was out of the room.
have you had a really big change recently? A move, going back to work, having a new baby? Sometimes kids will do this to get attention. Accidents happen, but consistantly peeing in the same spot is a sign that they're doing it on purpose.
Hi J.,
You need to talk to your child about why, there is definately somthing going on that makes her feel she needs to pee there.
However, before you talk to your daugter, you need to think about what has happened in the last week. Has there been a chagne, has she watched something about a child peeing somewhere other than the bathroom? Does she sit on the basement steps for a time out? Could she be angry at the basement steps for a reason, did she fall on the step, is she scared of the steps?
Once you examine her last few days, try to lead the converstation with opened eneded questions, like "why do you want to pee on the steps?" "Do you feel bad or angry at the steps?" "Did the steps do something that made you mad?"
I hope this helps.
R. Magby
you need to take something they like to do away everytime it happens also the one who does it needs to be in out time and put in there room after for an hr or so for ground ment. if it happens a gain add an hr to the groundment. You have to stop it and the one who is encouraging her you take something away and ground them too.
If it makes you feel any better, when my son was 4 he took off his pants and peed right over the heat register in the floor. Never did it again, I think he just wondered what it would be like. I told him "we don't pee on the floor, we pee in the potty" and that was that.
Hi, Sorry, I don't have an answer, but I thought this was funny. You gave me a laugh this morning. Maybe keep them outside for the next couple of days?? Could have picnics for breakfast, lunch, and dinner! Take a nap under the trees and look for bugs!!
I agree that you need to find out why she likes to pee there. Kids will try out different things occasionally - my child used to try to pee in the closet, and sometimes into the bathtub... the way I got him to stop was to say, "Pee-pee and poo-poo go in the potty. Nowhere else." And when he didn't listen, he had to help me clean up the mess he made. He was not too pleased with that. Make sure you have consequences for your daughter's actions (fair and consistent).
best wishes!!
Has anything changed in her environment? I know children can regress when something is bothering them. My daughter regresses when she was 3 1/2 and he brother was born. I would discipline her, that worked with my daughter. She sat in time-out because they were not accidents because she had been potty trained since she was 25 months. Good luck
