K.M.
Maybe he doesn't like his teacher. It sounds like to me that maybe something happen there that upset him and he doesn't trust them. However, you say he's doing better at PDO, it maybe because he has to do better there or he will get the same results from the teacher that upsets him. Maybe the teacher yelled at him or another child. I would listen to your son & his actions. They don't yet have the ablity to explain what is going on, but you could ask him detail questions like "does anyone ever get in trouble there, what happens when they do." Or something to get him talking about his day there. I really do try to listen to my children bc I have made mistakes of listening to the daycare provider and not my child, and my childs behavior didn't match up to what they were telling me. What was going on was she was screaming until she went to sleep and she wouldn't eat there at all(which for an ifant that is a trust issue). They weren't picking her up bc she was screaming; they wanted to teach her a lesson. They didn't even know she could walk! The only way I found about it was that her uncle's children were attending there too & he saw her. The daycare provider didn't know we were related. I felt so bad, I was a new mother back then and everyone told me that as soon as you leave then she will be fine. She wasn't. I thought she was really tired bc she had been playing all day with the other kids, it was bc she had been crying the whole time. To this day I feel bad about that so when I put my 2nd child in daycare, after she got bit the 3rd time by the same child I was done. She didn't want to go either. I do agree that he does need some play time with the other children and they do try to teach them things like standing inline and those things are important. I would find another PDO and maybe you have to stay there for the whole time until he feels safe and really talk it up about how much fun it is. With my 2nd child at the next daycare she went to we started a routine, a kiss, a hug and bye-bye. I worked out well most times.