My DD was completely potty trained at 27 months. She then went through some stress with our move to a new house and reverted to tons of accidents. Now, 3 months later, she is still in pull-ups b/c if I let her wear panties she just pees in them and doesn't care or tell me. I'll walk into the kitchen and step in a puddle. It's so gross! She ALWAYS poops in the potty, but doesn't care about peeing. Should I just keep her in the pull-ups until she "gets" it or what?? She's a very smart, bright, talkative, and very BUSY little girl, she just doesn't give a flip about being wet!
Make HER clean up the mess. Once she has to do it a time or 2, she'll start using the poppty.
She doesn't give a flip about being wet because there are no consequences to her being wet. In a pull-up she doesn't even feel the wetness.
Switch to panties all the time. (Arm yourself with extra paper towels, laundry detergent etc. beforehand.) Take her shopping for panties and let her pick them out. Emphasize with a smile that these are ones SHE chose and they're so pretty, and mean she is a big girl, and she has to keep them nice and dry. Then do not put her back in pull-ups or diapers. Ever. That lets her think it's OK to pee in them and she'll keep doing it.
Have her take the rest of her pull-ups out to the trash can and put them in (you can retrieve them later to give to a neighbor or charity or whatever but don't cave in and keep them for her "just in case").
When she pees in her panties, she must stop playing instantly. She, not you, peels them off; have her wash them out by hand under the tub spigot and wring them out well (you of course will launder them later, but she needs to understand: She makes the mess, she cleans it up). Then she must rinse out any wet clothes. She must go and get clean pants and clothes and dress -- no delaying or running around in just her shirt. Then immediately follow with handing her paper towels: Now she cleans up the puddle and puts the towels in the trash and has to wash her hands very well. If you really want to make the point, have her empty the trash can into the big can as well.
Do it all with no yelling, being very matter-of-fact. Keep her to it-- don't let her wash the panties then wander off, for instance, and don't let her skip the step of wiping up the puddle. Tell her calmly, "I understand sometimes you have accidents. But when you do, we need to keep the house clean and healthy. So every time, since these are your panties, you need to do these things. You can go back to playing only when you have done these things." You could remind her that she will have more time to play if she stays dry next time.
If she wets the bed (you don't say if she pees much in the pull-ups at night) you will need to have her get up, help you strip and change the sheets and her nightclothes, and wash her hands well (kids really don't like having to wash their hands more than they want, so this emphasizes that if she gets wet she has to do stuff she'd rather not). Be sure to get a waterproof mattress cover, the kind you can wipe dry and wipe down with a damp paper towel before putting on new sheets.
Don't treat it all as punishment but as "well, we must do this, I'm sorry you got wet, but when you do this is something that has to be done every time." It is tedious for you but should show her that staying dry is easier than constantly cleaning up clothes, floors and beds. If you yell at her about it she will start to make it a power struggle; just turn it into a chore that she can get out of if she can stay dry. She did undergo some stress so you don't want to stress her out, but you do want to show her how much effort it is to be wet and how much more fun she could have if she stayed dry.
I know some freudian parents would FREAK out, but I treat peeing in his pants (when truely NOT an accident) like any other bad behavior. I get on to him, tell him I am very disappointed, that he is not acting like a big boy and make him clean it all up.
I know the puddles suck, but DON'T let her have pull-ups again. You will end up potty training her all over again! SO.... YOU READY FOR THE BEST SOLUTION EVER....?????? Walmart & Target carry plastic undies. They go over her regular undies or to avoid a mess even moore, they make undies too that are right with the plastic ones that have an extra thick & absorbent center. The plastic covers aren't too bad dry, but feel HORRIBLE wet. My mom swears by them for training all 4 of us before the pull-up era. When she pees, it won't make a puddle on the floor, but she WILL care that she is wet. That plastic & elastic on the thighs gets pee on it and sticks to your skin a little like leather car seats on sweaty thighs.
She's gonna HATE them, and you can wien her off of them, tell her if she pees in the potty, 3x a day or has no accidents, etc. she doesn't have to have them anymore.
I agree with the other mama. If she has to do it, it sinks in a little more. My daughter just turned 4 and I still have to remind her to go pee. If she is a smarty about it or whines, no tv or movies. Sounds a little mean now that im typing it, but it works!
my mother MADE me wear a black bag and walk around in it. She cut out two holes for my feet and I absolutely HATED it (I had to go play outside with my friends in this thing!). But that might just be bad parenting?
Is she talking yet? Does she understand what it means to go pee pee? Perhaps do a reward system? If she tells you she needs to pee pee, she gets something in return - a sticker, or a treat, or watch her favorite show on TV? If she does not tell you, and still pees, then take something away. Tell her calmly: "Mommy asked you to tell her, now elmo has to go away because you did pee pee on the floor" However you need to phrase it so she can understand the consept of good and bad.
Hope this helps.
Good luck
You're not alone, this is actually not at all uncommon- especially with the recent move. Here's some info
http://www.pottytrainingsolutions.com/article_info.php?ar...
Hang in there :o)
