2 Year Trying to Come in My Bed

You could follow the advice of the others here, but be prepared for it to be difficult to get him back in his own bed when the time comes if you give in now. If that does not sound like something you want to deal with later, than be firm now and he will get it.

Personally... I love having my child sleep in bed with me. It eases my fears about her well being, I know she feels safe and loved, and truthfully - my soon-to-be-husband doesn't like it and I told him to shut up and deal with it. My child comes first - ALWAYS - over a man or my own feelings. They are only really children once and you can never get that time back. I'd rather suck it up about sharing a bed, than for her to remember that when she needed me, I refused her permission to sleep with me in my bed because I didn't want to disturb my fiance or start a pattern.

My daughter is 5 y/o and has slept in my bed since birth. She is finally coming to the age where having her own bed and her own room are very appealing. This is the age where they feel comfortable enough to seek true independence and desire privacy. When I have the money, we will be getting her a special loft bed with a tent on top - she is very excited and looking forward to it.

I'm assuming the situation in the basement is temporary. The boy doesn't have his own room. Out of sight tends to be out of mind, but you're right there! While he is still getting used to potty training, then I agree- let him stay in your bed. Soon things will be back to normal and he will have his own room where he doesn't have Mamma right there in his line of sight. He'll learn to comfort himself when the time comes.

If I were you I would let him sleep with you. This is not a normal situation where he has his own room to go to. Your bed are so close that you might as well be sleeping together. And this way he wouldn't wake you up and you would get a better nights sleep. Sometimes ya gotta do what ya gotta do!

I would just let him sleep with you believe me you will miss it when he no longer wants to climb into your bed and snuggle with you. You will both sleep much better. I would walk my boys back to their beds if it was before I went to bed but during the night I never mind if I have company.
edited: If he is waking up to go potty during the night that is awesome and don't stop taking him :)

You are doing great. I had the same issue with my son. I even think he was waking up about 10 - 15 times. My advise... just hang in there. Before you know it, he will just start to stay sleep longer and the visits to your bed will become less and less. It seems as if this will never end, trust me it will. It just takes some time.

As for you taking care of your niece / nephew, try to get some additional family help with them. If not, during the week for school, maybe the weekend, someone can give you a break.

Again you are doing a great job, just think of the difference you making in these children's lives. You are a Blessing to them.

Good Luck
-R.
Your are a Blessing

Whenever my daughter (who will be 3 in January) had any upheaval in her life (like her sister being born or family staying with us for very long visits), she would start waking up frequently wanting to sleep with me & my husband. I would actually sleep in her bed so that she stayed in her own bed and gradually she stopped waking up looking for me to come sleep with her. When she was 2 years old waking up wanting to sleep with us, I totally thought she would want to be sleep with me until she was 5, but she's not even 3 yet and already stopped wanting me in her bed. My advice is to give your son the nighttime comfort he needs during this transition time. When he feels comfortable in he will stop looking for you at night - it won't last forever. Try sleeping in his bed so he learns to stay there since it is important for him to stay in his bed. I also have a hard time falling back asleep, but when I cuddle with my daughter, her calm breathing puts me to sleep instantly and if I am in my bed, I pick a random number like 2000 and count backwards by multiples and that helps me fall asleep a lot sooner. Good luck!

I totally understand not wanting it to become a habit. I know plenty of people love co-sleeping, but I just couldn't stand it. I got the worst sleep ever when I tried it with my first. That said, when we have to share a bedroom with our daughter or son when visiting family it helps if we aren't really easy for them to see. I know you said the space is tight, but if there is room you could hang something between you and him at night. As for getting up to go to the potty-stick with it. It is great that at that age he is waking up to go. Don't put him in pull ups. Good luck with your situation. I know how hard it is to function with little sleep.

C.

I agree with Mallory. It will only be temporary, the important thing to do right now is for you to get enough sleep. You won't harm him by letting him sleep with you.

If you are okay with him sleeping in your bed then no big deal. If not, maybe you can move furniture so he can see you from his bed. Can you put him in a pull up at night to break the pattern? I'm not sure with the night time potty training since my son is 4 and still needs a pull up at night (he almost never wakes up dry). My son moved to a bed at 2.5 but usually sleeps through the night and was at that age. My daughter is almost 2 but is in a crib in my room still (it is so much easier when she wakes up at night).