My son is 2 1/2 and we just started potty training this week. He had shown several signs of readiness, so we decided to just go for it. He is doing very well so far, and has only had 4 accidents in the past 4 days. The problem is that when he goes pee, he screams and cries the whole time. He tries to hold it in until he just can't...but still, not many accidents. I was thinking possibly a UTI or bladder infection, but he doesn't have the same issue if he goes in a pull-up. But he doesn't really want the pull-up either. My husband is worried that this will eventually give my son a UTI. What do you ladies think? Keep going forward, or hold off for a bit?
Well, after a couple of days, my son is no longer freaking out on the potty! I think something just clicked. To those who said he was too young, I'm all for waiting if that is what my son wanted. But it wasn't. Age isn't the factor, it is readiness. If they are ready, they are ready. Why lose that window of opportunity when it presents itself?
Are you rewarding his big boy successes with a popscycle or other treat? Are you praising his good efforts?I would keep at it and consider giving him lots of real cranberry juice in case he does have a bladder infection and make a doctor's appt. just in case he doesn't get over it...Don't confuse him by going backwards into diapers and then having to make all that progress all over again..YOu are almost there!
All kids want to keep doing what they are doing and not stop to go to the bathroom. Both of our girls did it and still do it. They'd hop around, wait until they had to run to the bathroom. However, your son's reaction seems a bit extreme. He might be physically ready to potty train but not mentally ready. Our girls would protest and be stubborn but I don't remember crying and screaming. Go with what your gut is telling you. If you've tried the rewards for going potty (a couple M&M's or a sticker), offered to let him shoot Cherrios, and he's not thrilled then stop for a few months. Tell him Mommy and Daddy don't want him to be upset and we'll try again later when he feels more ready. I agree with the posts that say when your kid is ready it will be a breeze---there will still be accidents and it won't be without frustration but it won't be an emotional disaster. (and yes, holding it can eventually result in a UTI or really bad constipation) Good luck Mom.
I am in the same boat. My son is 2.5 and does really well with the potty training, but he cries the whole time. I think it's because he doesn't want to stop what he is doing and take a break to go potty. I make him go every 1.5-2 hours, regardless if he tells me has to go or not. He usually does not tell me has to go pee, only when he has to poop. Maybe your son is afraid of the potty? Does he use a potty chair or the big potty? My son was deathly afraid of the big potty so we tried him on a potty chair first for a few weeks, then he wanted to try the big potty by himself, and he has used it since. He still cries though, because he doesn't want to stop playing or doing whatever he is doing. If it were me, I would try different things, but keep at it, especially since he is doing so well. Good luck!
Hi!
2 1/2 is NOT too early. All those "experts" who say to wait are nuts!! If the child is showing signs of readiness and doesn't like to go in a pull up either go ahead! My son was potty trained a little over 2 and my daughter decided at 20 months that she no longer wants to wear diapers and potty trained herself as your son seems to be doing real well. She too has the problem with crying but only for pooh. She doesn't want to do it in a diaper either so I am going to just keep trying and maybe she will relax--it has been about a month. Have you tried to let him stand up like daddy? Then he can try and aim at cheerios or something in the potty. Maybe this would help him relax? My advice is to keep going with it! My personal opinion is people wait too long these days because diapers are so convenient!
Good luck!
L.
If he is miserable, back off. I had a similar problem with one of my sons. We saw a pediatric urologist who is exasperated at how early we in the US potty train our children. He told me if we wait until the child it truly ready, there are hardly ever any issues. It certainly isn't harmful to wait.
Hi S. Your son is still kinda young. Try to be patient with him because at that age they will have accidents. My grandson is 3 1/2 and he's just being willing to go. He use to fight and scream when the word potty was even mentioned!! But he starting to get the hang of it now and he did it without any force. So if there's isn't any thing physically wrong with him, just give him time.
Hi there. Potty training can be a challenging game with boys. Sounds like although he is showing some signs, he's really not ready. Holding it is not healthy and can cause issues. My suggestion, hold off for a bit. He will really let you know when he is ready and then you'll be done with daytime potty training in just a few short days. Nap and night time training takes longer. Good luck!
2 1/2 is about a year too early, according to most pedicatricians and child development experts. I would back off of it. Keep the little potty out and tell him it's his choice where he goes. He'll get it eventually.
Potty training should be a victory, it should be something he is thrilled about and so excited and proud about. He should NOT be crying. I really think you should just back off and forget it and let him make the call. It's his body, after all. :)
I would take the word of "experts"-- like pediatricians and child psychologists-- over mothers who are just getting sick of changing diapers and want their child potty trained for their own convenience, not when the child is ready. :(
