18 Yrd Old Wont Take Meds

Updated on September 01, 2010
K.G. asks from Simpsonville, SC
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My son is 18, graduated from high school and is about to go off the the military. When he graduated he stopped taking his ADD meds and refuses to take them. He is must easier to be around, drives safer, and is calmer on the meds. Not to mention I worry about him having a gun without the meds. How do I make him take the meds?

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Thank you all for the information on the military and meds. He really wants to succeed in his chosen branch, and as I have read from some that would know, meds for that is not allowed. So, I have decided to back off and let him be the man he should and needs to be.
I also will refrain from calling his recruiter and following up on details. You are all right, it is time for him to take control of his own life.

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R.S.

answers from San Antonio on

I don't think you can "make" an 18 year old take his meds if he doesn't want to take them.

You can try and talk to him about how much they help him "control" himself...but he is an adult...and one that is about to start his life as an adult far from home in the service.

I don't know military protocol about soldiers taking medication...maybe he is worried it will reflect badly on him in the service.

Maybe someone else can help you more with ideas...

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M.B.

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You can not "MAKE" him take meds at 18 or even younger for that matter if they choose not to take the meds. Most of the time meds are prescribed for kids to help them in school. Try to help him if this is his decision. Let him know that you support him in his choice and you are there to [help him be successful. I am sure when he gets to the military they are not going to make him take his meds!

(30 years in Special Education )

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S.M.

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You don't make him take them because you can't. I guess I'd give him some space and just see how it goes. He may decide on his own that he does better with them ( or not) and that to perform at his best in the military it's to his advantage to take them. Pushing him may only push him further away. -- I hear you though!

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P.W.

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Mom........you can't. I am guessing you have already explained to him all the reasons on why he should take his medication.... so now it's up to him. He may surprise you and do okay off meds, or he may fall on his face and then decide for himself to go back on meds. But it will be his choice this time, and he will learn better just for that reason.

Bottom line, there is nothing more you can do.

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K.C.

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The military does not allow you to have ADD and be in the military...
The disqualifying medical conditions are listed below. The International Classification of Disease (ICD) codes are listed in parentheses following each standard.
The causes for rejection for appointment, enlistment, and induction (without an approved waiver) are an authenticated history of:

Attention Deficit Disorder/Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (314), or Perceptual/Learning Disorder(s) (315) is disqualifying, unless applicant can demonstrate passing academic performance and there has been no use of medication(s) in the previous 12 months.

http://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningthemilitary/a/neuro...

I used to be in the Navy a couple years back, and the easier branch to get a waiver in is the Army (although they are getting to the number of troops quote so maybe not anymore) and the hardest is the Marines. Has he seen a recruiter all ready? Make usre if he has to not let the recruiter pressure him into "lying" or covering it up, saying that the military doesn't check medical out. They do. A friend of mine went in the same time as me but didn't get to graduate. Why? Her recruiter told her to lie about breaking an arm when she was 12 (she was 18 at the time) just because it would mean a 2 week delay at MEPS and getting sent to basic and he wouldn't get his recruiting quota. They found out, and she was lucky they didn't get her for it. She just got a dishonorable discharge.....
And if the meds he uses are stimulants (like I take Adderall, so I couldn't go back in) then they'll find it in the drug test.

EDIT: You NEED a waiver to join with it.
ADD/ADHD

Under the old standards, any history of ADD or ADHD was disqualifying. While waivers were sometimes possible, they were among the hardest categories of waivers to get approved. Under the new standards, ADD/ADHD is disqualifying only if the applicant has been treated with ADD/ADHD medication within the previous year and/or they display signs of ADD/ADHD. For applicants with a previous history of ADD/ADHD who have been off medication for more than one year, and they do no demonstrate significant impulsivity or inattention during MEPS processing, the MEPS examining official may find them qualified for military service without submission of a waiver.

Records review is still required. Any history of being evaluated or treated for ADD/ADHD must be documented. As a minimum, all treatment (if any) within the previous three years must be submitted to MEPS, in advance, as part of the medical pre-screening. Full medical records are required if the applicant was ever treated for ADD or ADHD with any medication other than Ritalin, Adderal, or Dexedrine, or if there were any additional psychiatric symptoms, such as, but not limited to, depression.

MEPS may require school transcripts to demonstrate acceptable academic performance for the year without medication. If treatment for ADD/ADHD occurred throughout the school environment, but wasn’t stopped until after the applicant left school, there is still the possibility of waiver consideration.

ha, yeah, lol, the stimulant meds are a definant no-no. but she said her son took them before he graduated, which is may/june and he wouldn't have fulfilled the year without meds....

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K.C.

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Won't the military have something to say about him not taking meds for his medical condition? I'd be curious about this as well...

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R.M.

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I am not sure but this may have something to do with him going into the military!!! My husband is retired military and I do know that there are some medications that will disqualify you from serving. One of the young gals that I work with, joined the Air Force National Guard and she had to go off of her anti-depressant medicine before she could go in for her initial physical.
You are not going to be able to force him to take his meds....he is an adult now and he is going to make this decision on his own. All you can do is be supportive...and as hard as it is...don't nag Mom!!! ( I know how hard it is...lol)

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The military DOES allow you to have ADD & be in the military. My husband is in the Army National Guard (previously Active Duty) and he has ADD. I just asked him about it. You cannot JOIN if you are taking certain medicines, such as Adderol. I think Strattera would be ok (he'd have to confirm that). Once he is in the military, they can control his meds and put him on whatever is needed.

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K.B.

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There are natural supplements to help that have no side effects and would not be a problem in the military but he could run them by the doctor. I can look them up if you are interested.

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S.E.

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My hubby is currently a military recruiter, and having an active ADD medication prescription (and taking it) is a disqualifying factor. If he is even able to get into the military, the structure will likely do him good. He's an adult now, and by trying to force the issue you would merely be getting in the way of his attempt at enlistment. And believe me, nothing irks a recruiter more than a helicopter parent!

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He can't take the meds and be in the military. They are mind altering drugs.
You can't make him take his meds.

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G.H.

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grind it up & mix it in his food
bribe him
force feed him

If none of those work then I think you got to let it go :( sorry mom he's 18 now

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G.B.

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You can't. There is nothing that can be done, he doesn't even have to list them on his military records. It is sad of course but he is an adult now and is able to make these decisions for himself. As much as we know it's not the best he can do it is what he wants.

My daughter enlisted and never put she had Asthma. Since it's not a drug that shows up in a drug test it never came up. She just kept an inhaler in her pocket or her stuff by her bed and used it if she started wheezing. Her Asthma wasn't bad enough to show any symptoms while even doing PT.

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