M.L.
I am so sorry you & your family are going through this. She is a teenager, wanting to live like a 21 year old. It starts with friends. Does she have friends whose parents are very liberal? She could be upset because her friends are able to do things she is not allowed to do. Is she being bullied or picked on at school? Kids are very cruel these days and can really hurt someone's self-esteem. Sit with your daughter alone. Let her know that she might not know it now, but you really are her best friend. It takes kids to learn that when they are adults. Let her know that whatever it is, you will not get angry. She is holding something in that she needs to talk about. As a parent, it is your responsibility to find out what is bugging her. Let her know she can trust you. Whatever it is, you can work it out. Ask her what she would like for you to do. What makes her hate the family. Is it being together in public? She might get picked on at school if she is seen in public with her family. What she needs to know, is that she has a loving family & many kids now and days don't have that due to divorces, seperations, etc. She needs to realize how lucky she is. Many kids out there would give anything to have a family together. Good Luck!