I taught parenting for years. There are 3 types of parenting:
1-doormat
2-autocratic
3-firm and loving **Patty K is right !!
If you let a child of 10 yrs of age have free reign on "adult" gadgets---then, this would be the doormat parent. If something bad takes place.
Let's say he gets into a chat room and I'll let u use your imagination to as what could happen. Also, the photos that could pop up are so disgusting and totally inapproriate !!! He could type in the word Spring (let's say) and end up with Spring Break videos----yikes !!
Kids feel INSECURE when they don't have limits and parents who parent. Good luck during the teens yrs if limits are not set !
I just got done talking w/ a parent of a 5th grader who sends out photos of herself in her bra and underwear. The parents don't check ANYTHING.
Yet, all the boys in her grade are looking at these pics. How sad for the parents--embarrassing. The parents of the boys were livid !! This is just a real example of what happens when kids have adult gadgets and doormat parents.
The autocratic parent would prob not let the child on the computer or stand over the child and micromanage.
The best parenting would be something like this: Give him ONE gadget.
Have the safety controls all set ahead of time. A one or 2 hr limit a day is mandatory .Also, let's say it's time for dinner. He refuses to come to dinner and keeps playing. I give my child a minute warning...If it is not shut off, then, it's mine for the rest of the day. Why? Dinner time is social. No gadgets are allowed at the dinner table ever. We eat at the same time every night, so, it's no surprise.
NO FREE REIGN--unacceptable !!! Don't do it ! One of you is a doormat....
Look into the dark side ---if this trait hinders your son's daily life activities in any way---Talk w/ the dr sooner rather than later.
Make sure (as a couple) you are on the same pg w/ parenting -- or seek out a parenting class.