J.J.
Hi! Okay, the one thing I have learned from my REALLY picky eater is to not make a big deal about food. The more you press it, the more they reject it. Plus, you want food to be a fun experience, not invoke tears. I know it's frustrating, but just keep trying stuff. IF she won't eat it, don't press it. Sometimes kids just need time to get used to things. Let them explore different foods by touching it or pushing it around with a spoon. I've just talked to an occupational therapist about my daughter's picky eating and here's what he had to say:
1. Food has so many sensory things tied in with it: temperature, taste, texture, smell, that it is often the thing that kids struggle with the most.
2. there's many steps that lead to eating something. How do they respond to food? Will they touch it? Will they push it with a spoon? Do they smear it around? Once a kid touches something, they'll be more likely to try putting it in their mouth. So at this early stage of eating, its okay to let your kid play with food. Its their way of exploring it, and eventually, it just might lead to eating it. So, put a bunch of stuff on her tray and let her explore it with no pressure to eat it. See how she reacts to stuff. I've been doing this just for a few days and it's AMAZING how much stuff that she would have nothing to do with before, my daughter will actually touch it if I don't pressure her to eat it.
3. Let your daughter decide when she's done eating. IF she doesn't want to eat anymore, let her get out of the high chair. Kids will not starve, especially since she's getting good amounts of formula.
4. If she's adverse to the high chair, maybe let her do something fun that she enjoys in the high chair - like play with her fav. toy or something while you're making her a meal. Also, be sure to offer the formula AFTER eating and wait a good while after a bottle before you try to get her to eat. Maybe she's just not hungry because she's just had a bottle???? Offer the formula afterward.
Anyway, hope that helps. Good eating habits can be so rough, but just keep at it. I can't tell you how much food I've wasted (grrr) because my daughter wouldn't eat it. Sucks, but its all worth it one day when they pick up that piece of broccoli and devour it!
Good luck!
J.