Your Dd First Periods

Let her use pads until she asks for something different. Tampons can be painful and cause more problems that not. I had a talk with my girl about TSS. It's still as common as it used to be. A younger girl died not too long ago from it. I let her wear them when she's going to be in water and she's on her period. If she puts one in she has to remember to take it out on time. Kids aren't supposed to be perfect and they might forget.

that exactly how mine started when i was younger. a spot once then about a month later i got a spot when i wiped. my mom had me put a pantyliner in, and that saved my pants because there was more spotting later that day. then more like a regular period in the following cycles. it probably took my body 4 maybe 5 cycles to produce a normal like period with full on cramping and flow.

that above the buttock pain could be related to the period onset, but it could be kidney pain and the blood could be a uti like another mentioned. if its lower on the back and more in the inch or so above the hip bone area then iwould think muscle related and try a few simple stretches.

if you think it may be a uti then a visit to a dr is in order

don't worry about growth, short peoploe will have no trouble in the world. they get jobs and families just like tall people do. i am short and it has not caused any issues. you just gotta embrace your hieght and run with it

i only ever used pads and occasionally a tampon. start with pads, then when needed a tampon (for swimming ) and let her take the lead on what she wants, some girls only wear tampons, others can't stand how they feel and prefer a pad. so let her decide what she wants. and don't stress about it.

(((((((hug hug hug)))))))take a deep breath and rellax a bit.

Hey Lilly. Bless your heart, you're going 60 miles an hour here.

I just saw your question, so I'm late writing. Maybe you've already figured out the period question by now. If not, here's an alternative. When I was 12, I filled the toilet with blood after having a bowel movement. At first I thought I had started my period. I called my mom into the bathroom and showed her the toilet. She didn't know what to say. It didn't happen again. She never said anything about it to me afterwards. (When I grew up, I asked her why she didn't. She told me that it scared her and she didn't want me to be scared, so she said nothing. She admitted that it was a mistake, since at the time I felt like she didn't care.) Evidently, I broke a blood vessel during my bowel movement.

I didn't start my real period until I was 13 1/2. And it was definitely a real period.

If she didn't continue to bleed, this might be what happened to your daughter. Alternatively, with the pain you were talking about, I would say that if it persists, and she doesn't bleed outside of sitting on the toilet, I'd take her to the doctor and get her checked for a UTI.

When she does start her period, try small tampons with her since she's an athlete. Give her vaseline to put on the tip, and have her squat over a mirror so that she can see where the vaginal hole is. You'll have to talk about the insertion angle, and then have her sit on the toilet to try to insert it. The vaseline is oh so important. Tell her how important it is to get it in deep enough past the muscle. She shouldn't be able to feel it when she walks if she has gotten it past the muscle.

I would not try to use sponges or cups with a child her age. Let her use tampons right now. The other things aren't necessary and she has more growing to do.

My daughters started at 10 and 11, after spotting for 4 and 6 months before real periods. I doubt a muscle damage can produce blood in her urine. Anyway period spotting doesn't "involve" urine all the time.
We use mainly pads, tampons just for swimming. It's simpler start with pads, more safe and handy before she knows her period. Just give her different kinds to find which one she feels is more comfortable.
Virtual hug.

I know you are emotional and that is ok. We get that way as moms!!

We always had wide open communication that was ongoing and still do with my daughter, now 21. She was about 12 when she started her period at middle school. She knew exactly what to do because we had discussed it.. don't freak out, go to the nurse, call me.

She had more flow and light cramps. The cramping was progressively worse throughout her school years, so much so, that it was not uncommon for her to be IN the bed sick as a dog and miss school about once every 3 months with her cycle. She ended up on a low dose hormone to control her cycle due to the pain. She was also an athlete and she is very petite.

She used a pad the first day and after that used tampons and never looked back. She only uses pads at night. Educate your daughter on tampon use and it is not that scary. I personally, can't imagine a middle schooler in the bathroom trying to cleanse a diva cup or something like that. Aside from the gross factor I get from it, imagine the "talk" among the girls who are around (girls are MEAN) Maybe that works for an adult but I would not put my daughter through any type of potential embarrassment on purpose.

Everything I said aside.... if her urine has a little blood in it and she is hurting where you describe, she could have a UTI or bladder infection.

If there has been no other sign of her period, I would assume it is a UTI.

Either way, it warrants a call to the pedi. UTI's are very painful and you don't want her in pain all weekend if that is indeed the issue.

Best wishes to you!

Likely a period and everyone is different. My 10YO started with a regular period and was pretty timely the next month.

Yes, I have been told by a few doctors that they will grow for one year past their first period. Although my young athlete is already 5'3", she hoped to be a lot taller.

She has only used pads so far. I let her try a tampon because she had a swim day scheduled with her friend from out of town and everything was due to happen on the same day. Mother nature gave her 1 grace day and she was able to swim without interruption.

I am not certain how a diva cup would work out being an athlete and I have never even heard of a sea sponge.

My concerns are working out so hard, sweating, and bleeding through in front of the guys.

My dd was 12.5 when she got hers. She showed me the toilet paper after she wiped. There was no doubt. I gave her a bag of pads and away she went.

I guess you'll know if she has any further bleeding today or in the next few days.

My dd uses pads. I don't want her using tampons yet. I worry about TSS.

I doubt it's her liver or spleen. That's not where those organs are located. Hip pain in an athlete: ice first (always). That reduces inflammation. She can take ibuprofen (Motrin) or naproxen (Aleve) according to her age and weight. No heat for a few days on an injury.

A very light period is very common - my stepdaughter pretty much had nothing except what was on the toilet paper.

If she had a UTI and blood in the urine, it would probably show up again on subsequent trips to the bathroom, or she would have burning or urgency. If she soaked in a bath afterwards, that could have diluted what little was left of her period.

Why is she freaking out or even aware about women's height based on the age of first period? How does she even have this info? Who says it's accurate? Get her off the internet! There are a zillion women who got their height in high school. Tell her to calm down, and give her facts - take her to the pediatrician with a list of questions, and give the pedi a head's up that your daughter is prone to anxiety about these things. Give her some time with the pedi after you leave the room too!

Is it possible that your own trauma and blocked out memories are causing some observable anxiety in you, and she's picking up on that? It would be normal for you, given your circumstances, but you want to balance that out by having your daughter meet with objective sources such as her doctor or a counselor at Planned Parenthood (and no, she's not too young) so she gets FACTS and doesn't just listen to her friends. Or get a good book or three from the children's librarian, and invest in purchasing the one that's most helpful over the long term.

I'd use thin pads for now until she gets a semi-regular period or a heavy flow. Most kids start with an applicator tampon. I wouldn't do any cups with a kid who is anxious and who's not yet familiar with her own body.

If it was only in the toilet, I would be concerned that this is actually a UTI.

I remember my 1st (1 week before I turned 13), and there was no doubt - it was light but lasted several days.

As for alternatives to pads and tampons - that really depends on your daughter and I would definitely let her get through a few cycles before talking about them with her. I didn't discover menstrual cups until I was in my 20s, but once I did I never looked back. I wish I had known about them much sooner.

My period started the same month I turned 12 and I grew about one inch after that.

I got mine day after my 11th birthday.
I'd been spotting for a few months but it was gradual.
I used pads at first but quickly moved on to tampons.
After childbirth I discovered Diva cups and mine was great until menopause.

Girls can gain some height up until about 17.
Generally she's be somewhere in between your height and your husbands.
It was never something my Mom or I ever got emotional about.
Your daughters period is not about you.
Every female mammal goes through some form of this one way or another.
Welcome to life!

If you think she has a sports injury then take her to a doctor.
The pain could be a lot of things but maybe you should check out some basic anatomy just so you know what's in that general area.
Your liver is not near your hips - but the appendix is.
Cramps does not always equate to heavy blood flow.
And just when you think you have it figured out you can have blood flowing heavily with no cramps - I stained more bed sheets that way - my Mom was getting annoyed but sometimes there was no warning at all I'd go to bed fine and be bloody the next morning.
Just like menopause takes several years of diminishing regularity, starting up is also a period (years) of irregularity until a more or less regular pattern happens.
Get your daughter a book for informing her how she's growing up and maturing - and read it before you hand it to her - and then go over any questions she might have.
Relax!

I've never heard of only growing a certain amount of inches after you start your period....ever. I was 5'2" at the time and then finished growing at 5'6"....
I didn't use tampons until 13, just pads.

I would wait and see what happens, as it could just be spotting that will eventually turn into a full-blown period. I got my period at 11 (and by the way, I kept growing, I got my growth spurt about 3 years after I started my period, to the point I was one of the tallest kids in class, and then they got their growth spurts and I lingered at my current height). My mom and I were able to tell it was a period because there was some shedding (clots) in it. I only ever use pads. I have heavy periods due to PCOS and I just buy heavy pads with wings and change often. Because some people mentioned a UTI, and it's quite possible (or other kidney issues), I would wait and see what happens. By the way, I get joint and muscle pain prior to and during my period, so it could very well be a period, even though she feels pain in the back (a common area of pain for me during and prior to my period). That is why I would wait and see if the bleeding and the pain continue and if it evolves into a full-blown period or she starts feeling other symptoms that may make you want to go with her to see the pediatrician.