My DD has been day trained for about 2 months, she still has accidents almost every day but for the most part she goes to the potty. Sometimes she wets her panties a little bit, not a full accident but the wet spot is fairly large, it spans all the way across the panties from leg to leg. What would you do, change the panties or leave it? What can I do to stop this? Is it just part of potty training that I need to let pass? I always tell her that she has to go potty before her panties get wet, she only gets a sticker if her panties are dry.
I think she is trying to hold her bladder too long and using that as a way to tell when she has to tell when she has to go potty when she doesn't want to, or is too distracted to because she will always go potty after that, most of her accidents in the last 2 weeks have been on the way to the bathroom or in the bathroom.
This is the 3.5 yo you staters training the beginning of March?
That's only about 6 seeks.
She'll get it.
Remind her often to "go."
Seriously--I still remind my 11 year old to go before we leave thee house! Lol
Yes--keep a stash of dry undies in each bathroom. Who wants to sit in pee pants? And she'll get a rash!
Don't leave her wet.
Maybe you can make it a little bit of a pain if she wets... Like, she has to rinse them out in the bathroom sink before she can go play again. The little bit of extra time and effort may make it worthwhile to her to try to make it to the potty earlier.
if she's having accidents every day, i'm not sure why you think she's been trained for 2 months.
toilet training is a process. they don't just get it, at least not usually.
she doesn't understand her body's cues yet. that's why she needs her mom to help her. have her go to the bathroom every hour (or whatever), or set a timer. and yes, put dry panties on her. and instead of using the sticker as a punishment, reverse the way it's presented, ie no more 'you only get a sticker if your panties are dry!' instead 'oh, sorry it's not a 'dry panty' day, but tomorrow we'll pay attention to the timer and really try to make it so you can get a sticker!'
khairete
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She is a child.
Children have accidents.
It is childhood.
None of us, when we were kids ourselves, were perfectly dry every day all day or night for 24 hours straight.
Per all of my daughter's Teachers, from Preschool to Kindergarten to 1st grade, ALL said that kids these ages have, accidents. It is normal. But the parents won't admit it because they are ashamed of it or embarrassed. But these are just young kids. They are not perfect experts about their bodily control.
Giving rewards or punishments, is not going to biologically mature her body any quicker. Or faster.
It is about physiology. And about the bladder/brain/myelin sheath and hormone development as well.
And night time dryness, is a whole DIFFERENT timeline. And is not the same as daytime pottying.
Your post doesn't seem to say how old she is. I have a few thoughts. First, a child who has accidents daily is not toilet trained yet. Second, no, you don't leave a child in panties when the entire crotch is wet! If you feel that she is waiting to long to get to the bathroom, rather than trusting her to take herself, maybe you need to actually send her to the bathroom every hour or so. Don't make using the toilet a choice. You may need to manage this aspect of toileting for a while.
Good luck.
Leaving her in wet panties will cause irritation and could cause an infection. I would change her.
This could be a part of being trained. She hasn't quite figured out when she should get on the potty. It takes time for all of us to learn new things. Two months is not very long. Consider that her body may not be quite mature enough to hold the urine. Continue changing her. She'll get it soon.
Change the panties. Would you want to be in wet panties? Don't rush her.
She's not trained. She's getting there, but she's not fully receiving those "I gotta go" signals, so she's leaking a little, perhaps on her way to the bathroom. She's just not there yet! I'd change her, yes, because the panties start to smell, and I wouldn't reprimand her. It's just not her fault. You might get one of the pads you can put in kids' night diapers/pull ups, or you can put her back in pull ups. She may not be ready yet! She may be sensing the wetness and then running to the bathroom because her brain isn't getting the "full bladder" signal yet. It's a developmental issue, not a training issue. You can't force it. You can remind her a million times to go, but that's not really "trained" either. She may not be "holding her bladder" as you suggest - she may not be getting that physical signal at all.
One thing my mom did that she says trained me was I had "pretty" panties and not pretty panties. If I had an accident I had to go into the ugly panties for the rest of that day. Every morning started with the pretty ones. She says in matter of 2 days I was trained. Maybe have her wear the heavy cotton training pants if she soils her panties. I wouldn't make it a huge deal just say uh oh, I'm so sorry you have to wear these ugly panties now. I'm sure you'll do better tomorrow.
I would be careful about being back in pull ups because she might decide that's easier if she's playing and doesn't want to be bothered to go to the bathroom. My daughter never did that but my son is a different story.
Hang in there!
L.
You definitely need to change her underwear or she will develop a rash.
Right now, I think you need to be more involved in telling her when to go so that you can try to get her to the bathroom before she has an accident. It is very common for kids to wait till the last possible second and then have an accident on the way to the bathroom. Try to take her at regular intervals so she never has to wait too long. Eventually, she will start to figure it out a little bit better.
Change her of course.
The idea of letting the child "stay wet" only applies if the child is defiantly wetting their pants.
She is still figuring it all out. Tell her "we don't pee in our panties. We pee in the toilet.". And then get her clean ones to put on.
I'm sorry, your daughter is not potty trained. When a child has accidents, they are not potty trained.
My youngest son was almost 4 when he was completely potty trained. It took a while, what helped was his watching his older brothers go. They didn't always like it, but they understood it helped.
Your daughter is still young. Don't expect her to do this overnight and don't expect her to be perfect at it. She's still learning. Keeping her panties on her when they are wet would be mean and unjust punishment for her. Not saying that that's what you are doing. But in my opinion? Leaving wet panties are her is not going to teach her anything. Do you really want to deal with rashes or yeast infections? No thank you.
Like others have told you, remind her every few hours to go. it's a process. For you it's easy because you've been doing it for years. This is new to her.
I would say something like "Aww, you wet your panties...(act sad). I know you don't like to do that. How about I help you? We'll go to the potty together everytime the bell goes off." And then set an alarm to go off every hour on the hour.
You don't want to shame her, but you don't want her to think it's okay to pee in her panties.
K.,
I'm sorry, your daughter is not day trained if she is wetting herself.
YES!! Change her underwear! If you don't - she can get a yeast infection or a rash...how horrible would that be for her?
Remind your daughter to go to the bathroom every few hours. This will help her. If she is in day care, then they typically remind the kids to go potty - they take potty breaks every few hours. She'll get there. Don't rush her.
She's in the process of learning her body's cues to go to the bathroom. This is why I used pull ups. When she's sitting on the furniture or floor she's getting pee on them...she may need some plastic panties until she gets fully trained, that means no accidents for months and months.
I never let her sit in wet panties. My daughter was prone to vaginal infections, mostly from bubble baths, which stopped when she started showering instead. But there's no way I would have left her in wet panties.
You could put her in pull-ups since she is having accidents everyday. I would definitely not leave her in wet underwear.
