Sister Has to Terminate Pregnancy

J.

The best thing you can do for your sister is to encourage her to bring her pregnancy to term. There is a huge risk of breast cancer that comes with abortion that is rarely discussed. She may be causing herself a needless health issue. Please visit /www.abortionbreastcancer.com/The_Link.htm

"Induced abortion before first term pregnancy increases the risk of breast cancer." Lancet 2/22/86 pg. 436

I know that continuing her pregnancy would be difficult but it would allow her child to be born and for her to grieve properly for her baby. Remember, all children are perfect in God's eyes. Just because we don't see the situation as such doesn't mean it isn't so.

There is no easy answer.

Consider that not only physical complications accompany abortion but psychological as well:

Fact Sheet Courtesy of the Elliot Institute

A List of Major Psychological
Sequelae of Abortion

In a study of post-abortion patients only 8 weeks after their abortion, researchers found that 44% complained of nervous disorders, 36% had experienced sleep disturbances, 31% had regrets about their decision, and 11% had been prescribed psychotropic medicine by their family doctor. (2) A 5 year retrospective study in two Canadian provinces found significantly greater use of medical and psychiatric services among aborted women. Most significant was the finding that 25% of aborted women made visits to psychiatrists as compared to 3% of the control group. (3) Women who have had abortions are significantly more likely than others to subsequently require admission to a psychiatric hospital.

I pray she will continue with the pregnancy but if she doesn't, please be aware that she will need help and it is available. Visit: www.afterabortion.org

I say just be there for her, if you want to get her something get her a nice spa package so she can focus on herself and pamper herself... or instead of buying her something, take the money and maybe surprise her by flying in and be there with her when she has her procedure. and then just sit with her and watch movies and cuddle with her and let her know that you care about her. You sound like a great sister.

J. -

My heart aches for both you and your sister. Whenever my sisters are going through a rough patch, I'm right there, too.

Since you are open to "any" gift ideas, I'd like to suggest a beautiful, meaningful necklace or bracelet that she could wear to constantly remind her of your love and support. Please visit my "gift shop" www.barefootparties.com/laurarenton. Click on shop, then catalog. On page 16, you'll find a beautiful "love and support" necklace designed to encourage inner strength in the wearer. It looks "big" in the photo, but it's actually very dainty and so pretty. On page 17, there is an angel charm bracelet featuring the word "Believe" and on page 29 you'll find a delicate little dragonfly pendant. A dragonfly given as a gift is a symbol of hopefulness and positive change. I also have several "sister" gifts, but the three items I mentioned previously are my favorites

A unique, meaningful gift with a message speaks volumes and I would be honored to help you send something to your sister to help soothe her soul. Please reply if I can be of assistance in any way. L.

J.,

I am so sorry for your sister and your whole family. You are all in my prayers.

That being said, I encourage you to read the following blogs. They are written by women whose babies were diagnosed with Trisomy 18. I have been touched by their stories - and know that each of their children are a gift from God.

http://poppyjoy.blogspot.com/
http://evajanette.blogspot.com/
http://tristanasher.blogspot.com/
http://fahmer.blogspot.com/
http://thestanfieldjourney.blogspot.com/
http://annabelgrace.blogspot.com/
http://marygracesummons.blogspot.com/

From those blogs, you can jump to other blogs regarding Trisomy 18.

Please know that I'm not trying to pass judgment; I simply want to pass along information.

I am praying that God brings you all a sense of never-ending peace during an incredibly difficult time.

With love and Mommy hugs,
B.

J.,

Listening is the best thing you can do for her. I lost twins at a very early age as well as an infant.. I know that was the best for me..

The positive is that she can still get pregnant and this was a fluke thing. I know it doesn't seem like there is anything positive, but in time she will see it.

I think a care package is a wonderful idea.. send her her favorite things.. something silly that will make her laugh, like an old photo of the two of you. Anything that will bring humor at a sad time..

~G.