So, my friend and I are both pregnant. She is 2 weeks further along than me. We are pretty good friends, with 2 other kids the same age. I offered to throw her a baby shower and we have both been considering the idea of a joint shower. She doesnt have a big family or a whole lot of friends, and I am really the oppisite. So the guest list may be really uneven, and none of our friends or family are mutual. DO you think it would be awkward to have a joint shower, even if we included (in a nice way) not to feel obligated to bring 2 gifts. WHat do you all think?
I agree with all the responses. A joint baby shower would be way to awkward and impersonal for everyone involved. We will do them seperately.
My gut says no. Too awkward for everyone, her, the guests and even you. It would be one thing if your friends/family were all the same or closer than what you have described. You are thoughtful to think of her but just throw one for her if you don't mind. Your guests will not want to bring a gift for someone they don't know and even if they did, she'd most likely feel funny accepting it.
Congrats to you both!
M.
I would keep it separate since your guest lists would be different and guests would rather enjoy time and spend money on a person they know. It would be awkward.
Hi H., congratluations on your new baby, Because your circl of friends is different I would not do a joint shower , if your guest list is longer your receive more gifts, the only way i can see it working is if you both agree on inviting the same amount of guests, but that would probably mean you would have to leave out some special friends. Let me know what you decide. J.
No way ! Have a seperate shower. It would be sooo awkward for her to watch you open all the gifts for your little one and then you would probably end up feeling guilty, or who knows what could happen !! LOL ! No matter what, just invite her to yours and if you feel the need to help her out, maybe you could ask if she wants you to help w/ HER shower.Don't try to be TOO nice. It sometimes can backfire on you ........Best of luck to you and your family !!
I think it would be best to have a seperate shower. only because her shower would be so much smaller and that would be a little uncomfortable during the gift session. It is embarrassing when one has way more gifts than the other. This is only my opinion. I think it would be different if you had an equal amount of friends and family. Good luck and congrats....
Nope don't do it. Why should your friends and family have to bring a gift for someone who they don't know and vice versa? If you had mutual friends it would be one thing to hold a separate shower for that group. Other than that you will be opening lots of gifts and she'll eventually just sit there and have to feign happiness when she's jealous deep down inside.
