Should I Let the Grand Mother See Her Grandchild?

I dont think you should punish the grandmother for something her son done to you.And I also think that you should let him know that you have come back seeing as it is his child and that you should make every effort to reunite them eventually.He may give you grief but your daughter may not hold the same feelings about him as you do and as her mother you should let her make her own decision about him based on how she thinks he treats her.She wont get that chance if you keep everything a secret and not let anyone know your back and give him another chance to see her.

How old is your child?

HI T.,

In a perfect weorld I would say yes...but this is not a perfect world. You never said how old your child was so letting your daughter chose would not be an issue. I say protect the child at all costs. Remember this is the woman that raised the father. She may be a wonderful woman now (you said somewhat decent?) She may not be proud of her son but with mistakes comes responsibility. It is not punishment for either if they don't see each other. When your daughter is older she can make some decisions but I know my daughters know my role is to protect them at all costs.

This is truly a matter of prayer and what you decide to do is what you have to live with. Please consider the cost and options and do the best you can. "Love covers a multitude of sins" and if you do the wrong thing and your daughter knows your intentions, you'll maintain that bond!

I will definitely keep you in prayer. This is an awesome responsibility and a decision I'm sorry that you are forced to make.

Regards,

M.

Hi T.,
Most may disagree with me. If her Grandmother wants a relationship with her, why not try it? If her biological father starts up, hopefully your daughter & her grandmother will love each other enough to get through it. I have gone through alot with my 16 yr old son. I wish his paternal grandmother & family wanted him to be a part of their lives. And so does he. Embrase it, for your daughters sake. GREAT LUCK to you! S.

Hey to you...I truly hope that she(the grandmother) is truly wanting a relationship with this child...Some people tend to play both ends against the middle...If all is true and she does really care, i think it would be great to happen...I found that in the past, i got played against the middle and ended up getting used...It is sad when grown people use children like that...If she is true to you, the relationship would be ok and she wouldnt let him interfear with that..I wish you good luck with this...

absolutely let her see your child. If she hasn't done anything wrong, then let her love her grandchild. My ex-sil did this to my mom. We have had to beg to see her. We found about after my neice was 8 years old that she wasn't even my brother's child. They were married when she got pregnant and had a child a year after my 1st neice was born. Even after finding out that she wasn't "blood"...she is my neice and is my mom's first grandchild and nothing will change that. My ex-sil is a complete and total nightmare. My neice loves us and knows that we love her, but her mom lives a horrible lifestyle and is terrible to her. sorry to ramble...just let her be loved.
K.

I certainly don't think that grandmother should be punished for what her son has done. If he may try to start trouble, set it up where he doesn't know about it, if possible. DOes grandmother acknowledge this or does she defend him? If she acknowledges his behavior as being insavory she should set him straight, if she doesn't acknowledge this then she needs to be told that if her son will be starting trouble then there will be a hold on her visiting with her grandchild-she needs to understand that if she is to see her grandchild that every step needs to be taken not to put her grandchild in a compromising position so to speak. Hope this helps