Feeling Depressed All of a Sudden.

Updated on December 27, 2010
A.H. asks from Saint Augustine, FL
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We've been TTC #2 since June with one chemical pregnancy, and we stopped TTC this month (but not preventing) because I have a teaching internship that starts in August. And I have what seems like an explosion of friends all getting their BFPs the last few days, so now I'm all depressed because I know I won't get that BFP for a Christmas present. :(

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So What Happened?

Thank you, ladies. I'm finally getting out of that funk! I actually cried a couple times. It was just weird - one minute I'm fine, then the next BAM I'm in a black hole. Thank you :)

Believe me, I can't wait to see my little girl's face in the morning! :)

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K.M.

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no sugar- it causes dpression. See WestonPrice for proper nutrition, which will help the depression, and getting pregnant.
best, k

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M.T.

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First of all, if anybody tells you "just relax and it will happen" they should shut the mouth quickly.... Infertility is a true disease... Would you tell a person to just relax and your cancer will go away????

May you never get to my position but, i am ttc for my second child for 6 years now... I lost my left tube with a ruptered ectopic (almost died) i have spent over 60k with ivf treatments, i was pregnant 2 times with twins that never made it passed 7 weeks... I can go on forever. Oh, and may i add 1 failed adoption to the list...

May you never walk in my shoes... I feel your pain girlfriend... If you ever need a person to talk to i am here.. You can join me on a website called dailystrength.. It really helps!!! Good luck to you...

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B.C.

answers from Dallas on

I'm sorry A.. Your baby will arrive when it's the right time. Try to keep your chin up. Enjoy your Christmas with your little one. ((hugs))

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J.E.

answers from Los Angeles on

whats a bfp? I know its something to do with getting preggo, but relax, it will happen when it should. Enjoy your holidays!

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J.K.

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I know it's disappointing, but I think that just six months isn't actually considered difficulty conceiving. I'm not trying to minimize your feelings, but six months to a year is completely normal for healthy couples with no problems conceiving. I don't think they consider you to have problems until you've been consistently trying for two years with no success. If you have established fertility problems with your first child, this doesn't apply. And this is for couples having a fair amount of sex. I'm not saying you're not; I am saying I admire you if you are, since once I had my kids I never slept again and finding time to have sex was really difficult. I would love a third personally but unless we start making a lot more money so we can pay a babysitter every weekend it's just not happening. Ladies, shout out to all of you who still manage to have sex often. I wish I were among you! Although my son did start sleeping through the night a couple times a week these past few weeks, so here's hoping!!! Sorry, A., I digressed.
Anyway, talk to your OB to get a medical assessment of typical time to conceive, and getting the facts might put things in better medical perspective. For me, knowing that six months is on the early side of normal would reduce the anxiety and sadness. Good luck; you'll get there.

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M.P.

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Depression is very common during the holidays. It's a time focused on family and dreams. It's natural for you to feel your loss more strongly. Remind yourself of the things for which you're grateful. Focus on your child and the things you enjoy about the holidays.

At the same time give yourself permission to grieve. You are grieving the loss of your dream. Remember that this is a temporary set back. As others have said, when it's time you will be pregnant. I add that often pregnancy happens when couples stop trying. Find a way to be happy with what you have but also grieve for what you don't have.

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L.F.

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You're probably feeling left behind everyone else. It's natural. I felt that way for 10 years while waiting for my precious DD to come. Every time I turned around someone was pregnant. I had friends who would have their first, second, and third child, and I still had never even conceived. It was so heartbreaking.

In order to deal with my jealousy I had to change my attitude and decide to be glad when godly, stable families were able to have children because the world needs them. I also recalled scripture that says God opens the womb and He purposes each child to be born.

I actually wrote an article to pep talk myself called "How to Suffer Through Infertility Well." I basically lecture myself with 10 ways to cope. I'll send it to you if you're interested.

Don't lose heart and cry as much as you want. Crying is healthy and helps you cope with your frustration.

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D.F.

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BFP= Big Fat positive :) Ive been ttc #2 since the summer too. I cherish my son and it took 9 months of trying to concieve in. Just remember to never lose hope. If I never get pregnant again (which I sure hope I will) I will still feel happy and blessed, because my son is wonderful and fulfills my life in so many ways. I know some people who cannot have children at all and everytime I look at my boy I feel so blessed. One thing that has helped is getting a family pet. I know its no subsitute for a sibling, but it is nice to see my son bond with something other than me and my husband.

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