Daycare Workers Yelling When They Dont Know Im Listening

It wouldn't do any good. You aren't their boss. You didn't hire them. If you are going to talk about it, talk to the director. Ask her why they are allowed to yell at the kids.

Personally, I'd be interviewing a new daycare. I really mean it.

Dawn

I absolutely would say something - as well as talk to the supervisor. I would not keep my son in a program where they yelled at the children.

Based on your recent questions you seem to have a real problem with your daycare situation. I assume you have spoken with the director, what did she say?
If you are not happy with the program/policies you should start looking for something else, asap. Find something that's more in line with your expectations.

You did say something.

Clearly they consider this acceptable behavior, so now you need to decide if you want to keep your son in a place that yells.

Good Luck

Hmmm...I saw alot worse than that when I worked in a daycare in Houston when I was 18. This daycare took newborns way before they were 6 weeks old. I saw the owner...about a 400 pound German woman pick a newborn up by her arm. I also saw her feed a toddler jar food with big huge helping on a spoon ....not heated up food....so fast...until he threw up. Also saw her swing and punch a 7 year old boy for moving the tv towards himself. Same boy was made to stay in a pushup position so long there was a puddle of sweat and slober under him(she was allergic to a/c so used attic fan only). The only thing I think she did right was feed them good...that's because she liked to eat herself. I was young and dumb then and didn't know anything about reporting what I saw. My kids never went to daycare. But my grandson does...and his daycare has closed circuit tv...that you can view anytime you want. It is hard to trust anyone with your children. Sorry so harsh...but real facts.

right now, one of my daycare kids has reduced hearing. I hate having to use a raised voice regularly....makes me hate the sound of my voice. But I have NO other option. & then there are days when I have to go up & over the group....to get their attention. Hate it....I have always followed the policy of lowering my voice to get their attention, but this group never hears me!

Next time you see something like this....simply recommend the provider move closer to the child & make her request. With today's example, you reduced yourself to her levels by being loud back! Not a good example for in front of children!

It is astonishing that a paid professional would yell at a small child/group of children-it makes me wonder what they do when you're not looking. It also sounds like an abusive environment that does not include love or patient nurturing-and I don't know how you have managed to summon the strength not to yell at them and if and when you do-please tell them from me to PICK ON SOMEONE THEIR OWN SIZE! I would thrust my family into poverty before I would let my child go back there.

Haven't read the other responses, but I don't know that there would be anything for me to say. I would simply find another more appropriate daycare for my child and give the current daycare my notice. They're not going to stop yelling just because you say something to them. They'll just be more careful to yell only when parents aren't there.

Not a good sign. That would be a big red flag for me to find a new daycare. They should be redirecting bad behavior or firmly talking to an individual if need be. Yelling to me equals an adult is out of control and I wouldn't subject my child to this treatment. When I was using a daycare for my infant daughter I stopped in at lunch everyday to visit and left knowing she was being loved and cared for. There's nothing worse than working and wondering if your child is okay. I would find a new place ASAP!

By "yelling", what exactly do you mean? Because to some people a raised voice is yelling, and to others, it just means that the person is strict or putting their foot down, or just scolding a kid. We all know that little kids have a hard time listening or paying attention, and I see nothing with loudening your voice to do so, provided that you are not angry & that your tone is still positive.

I'm not sure what you want us to tell you, honestly. If you are not happy with the place, then take your kid elsewhere. If you are expecting perfection, & are always looking for something wrong, you will never be happy unless you are the one caring for your child.

I don't think that daycare workers should be acting differently in front of parents, than they do behind their backs. If you have accidently caught them yelling at little kids, I would wonder what else is going on. If they are naturally people who enjoy children and have skills with them, they would have the maturity and patience not to be yelling, and particularly not to be hiding the fact that they are yelling. If they are sneaky like that, I don't think talking to them will help, and I think that in fact it could backfire to worse/sneakier treatment of your child. I say look for new care.

This seems alarming to me because it's obviously acceptable to EVERYONE there, and they also hide it if they're thinking no one else can hear them.

In nice daycares, no one yells. Even if they're frustrated, it wouldn't be acceptable to the upper management or other workers, much less parents. Sounds like a crappy place. Strict is having regulations and policies for handling bad behavior, not inclusive of yelling. Going into my daughter's old daycare was like walking into a library. Kids got time outs, and occasionally parents were called if they were REALLY out of line, but they didn't get yelled at. That's trashy.

I did leave my kids in a church run place in Philly once while traveling, with a whole different vibe, and the ladies were yelling at the kids, but they were open and affectionate about it. Kind of like "joking yelling" and loud boisterous stuff while laughing. They were doing it while I was standing right there, it was just their style-more Baptist style I guess :) Which I thought was fine.

I don't think it would do you any good to say anything. They'll just make sure you're not there when they yell. If you feel it's truly hostile and angry, I'd move your child.

I sing, in a ladies group, at church, the largest group I have sang for was at Crossroads Cathedral in OKC and that was about 8000 people during a musical, etc..I project very well and have been told I could be heard outside when I was trying to talk over the kids in my child care center.

So, that said. The tone of ones voice is often the difference in yelling and talking loudly to be heard. I am assuming she was yelling and that means she was annoyed, frustrated, or angry.

I expected my child care kids to pick up after themselves, they were supposed to pick up during clean up time. Picking up a blanket is a yes, speaking loudly to children who may be starting a fight, yes, yelling at a child to do something that you need them to do, no, that is not appropriate.

I would talk to the director and let her know this staff is having issues that need to be addressed in staffing or further training. It is very stressful to be in a classroom of little kids all day. This teacher may need to go home a bit earlier in the day, they may need to learn how to say things so that kids will listen, they may need to get up and interact with the kiddo's more. The directory will know this person and be able to manage it internally.

Depends on why the yelling sometimes kids only pay attention to louder voices. I would go by the words used and how the the kids react to see if you should worry

There's loud and there's loud. Yelling and making threats to get a child's attention is not a good thing (although I can understand how a daycare worker can get frustrated and do it), and certainly does not teach your son anything you want him to learn. I might ask the ladies about it, but I might also see if there's a better daycare option in town.

If it's the way I think you're saying they are yelling AT them and not FOR them, then, yes, you should say something. ( I mean as in loudly calling for a child to come, but not in anger). Be prepared to take your son from there or for them to tell you to find another childcare provider. I don't yell AT my kids and I would not permit anyone else to do so. It sounds like they are not as patient as they should be with (small) children so you should be concerned about what else is said and done when the parents aren't around. Best wishes

Are they yelling or talking loud so the kids hear them?

If they are yelling and are not behaving the way you would like as a parent... then say something and/or find another daycare.

Being "strict" does not mean, that child care Providers yell.
Yelling, does not mean a care provider is strict. It just means, they yell at the kids.

I don't know. How old were the kids? I would say if they are under age 2 (ish) then it's not acceptable. Any older than that, I would assume that the child is just not listening. Your 'stop it now or I will put you in time-out.' I've definately said that to my 3 1/2 year old when he was not listening. I read some of the other responses and people say to redirect their attention. I don't agree with that. If I say stop, he should stop. If he doesn't then I get upset and he is punished with a timeout. Similar to the example you gave with the blanket. I know there have been many situation with my 3 1/2 year old where I've said 'pick up X' a million times and he's just in his own little world and does not do as I ask. Sometime it requires me to raise my voice. Me picking up the toy/blanket/etc. is not going to teach him anything. Now I do think it's different for kids between 1 and 2 years old. Most cannot folow complex commands yet so it is important to be patient and take the time to show them what you need them to do. So when with my 13 month old, if I say 'pick up the blanket' I don't expect her to just go and do and it. I might have to help her/show her what I want her to do. So this is how I handle my kids and it is what I would expect my daycare provider to do as well. I am fine if they need to raise their voice with my son because he does not always listen. He needs to know that they mean business. If they were yelling at my 13 month old when she doesn't even understand fully what they are saying and cannot communicate back - it's a different story. For all the people who say they never yell at their kids - I'm having a hard timing believing that.