Crying - Bostwick,FL

Updated on August 25, 2014
M.G. asks from Bostwick, FL
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Hi,
About 2 years ago i was a member to this site. I forgot all about it and am starting a new account now that i am a mother of 4, and seek parenting advice. My 12 year old has latley been a bit of a crybaby. Everything makes her cry, she was always tough and the new obsession with crying is a bit odd (i mean odd as in weird not as in ODD). Any experance with this? Thanks

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G.♣.

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My first thought was, 12, hmmm, that's when I first got my period.

But I always hated it when people would assume if a girl is having a bad day, she must be on her period.

Really, she's 12 years old, and personally, I hated that age. There was so much drama at school. Girls were really mean, and it was hard to fit in.

Talk to her. Take her out for a coke or milkshake or something, just the two of you. I wouldn't ask her directly why she's been so emotional lately, but I would ask her how things are going - school, friends, activities, etc. Just give her a chance to share with you what's going on. Listen. Really, really listen. If there's something going on, you want her to feel comfortable talking to you about it. It might take a few mother/daughter outings to really build this relationship, but it will be great for both of you.

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D.B.

answers from Boston on

Welcome back!

Assuming you have ruled out anything traumatic or upsetting (problems with friends, new school, etc.), my first guess would be starting her period and/or having hormonal changes. See if you can get to the bottom of it, why she feels differently or so frustrated, and see if any body changes are freaking her out. A lot of girls yearn to be older, and then kind of freak out when it happens and they regress to childish behavior. If there was no big traumatic event from other kids that needs to be resolved, I'd just work on reassuring her and letting her outgrow it.

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M.P.

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A change in personality/way of being is cause for concern. Hopefully you have a good relationship with her meaning the two of you spend time together and talk. During one of those times tell her you've noticed she's been crying and wonder why. Have this conversation while the two of you are doing something together; perhaps washing dishes, getting ready for bed or driving somewhere. Be casual. Consider that she may not open up at first. If not come back to it later.

I also recommend giving her the American Girl book about caring for herself. I gave my daughter a book by Lea Matera titled A Book for Girls or something like that. It discusses sexuality as well as other issues related to growing up. My daughter gave it to her daughter. As moms we were available for questions. My daughter and her daughter read some sections together when she was ten.

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S.G.

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Did she get her period? If not she probably will soon.

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G.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

Give her some Midol. It's hormonal.

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C.B.

answers from San Francisco on

It's called puberty. Get used to it. My GD also sheds some tears these days when for many years, I NEVER saw a tear.

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